My dear daughter (DD), who is almost six, is generous by nature. She even had a party for her fifth birthday where she collected donations for a local shelter instead of receiving presents. She has never been showered with gifts and doesn’t ever watch TV with commercials (we only have Netflix). Even so, she seems to be more and more acquisitive lately. I notice a lot of sentences starting with “I want a …” and “Buy me a….” How can we combat this without making her feel like she doesn’t have the right to ask for things and, at the same time, teach her about the value of money? She doesn’t currently receive an allowance but she does receive cash from time to time. –Spending-wary Mom
Dear Spending-wary Mom,
Congratulations! Being mindful of overindulgence is half the battle. Not showering your daughter with gifts right-sizes her expectations. And a good-deed birthday party lets her experience giving. But beware: Subscribing to commercial-free TV won’t completely shut out the culture.