I’m sorry, but when I saw this headline on Huffington Post Parents…
Babywearing Ballet Class Is The Most Adorable Way To Dance
along with the above photo (from Babywearing Ballet), I had just the opposite reaction. Baby-wearing isn’t cute nor the best way for mothers to have fun–certainly not as much fun as ballet without a baby on your chest. Setting aside that the extra weight changes a woman’s center of gravity, the implication is that mothers should be “on duty” 24/7.
Seriously, wouldn’t it be MORE fun to do ballet and get back to your old self on your own? Wouldn’t the happy women in the photo find the camaraderie and the freedom of movement more enjoyable if didn’t have babies strapped on their chests? And wouldn’t it be better for their mental health to have an hour off–away from their babies–in a locale where they’re not tempted to catch up on household chores? Continue reading article →
This piece was written for Shareable.net. As the site’s “About” page puts it, “Millions of people are already winning in life by working together.” What better place for the “sharing transformation” to starts than in your own family.
It’s no secret that the owners of card stores, florists, restaurants, and phone companies benefit most from Mother’s Day. For the economy, it’s the third biggest spending period of the year (after Christmas and back-to-school). But, for many mothers, it’s a mixed blessing.
Even in 2014, the woman — by choice or by default — often assumes the thankless role of “Designated Doer.” On Mother’s Day, she gets a 24-hour break from the normal routine. Dad does dishes without reminding, and the kids give her cards that bring tears to her eyes. But what about the other 364 days? Where is everyone when it comes to errands, chores, remembering, and reminding?
It doesn’t have to be that way…. [Read more at Shareable]
Will both generations, parents and grandparents, become involved in the weekly discussions of family?
This question occurred to me as I was enjoying yesterday’s debut of Dear Family Whisperer, now a weekly column on the Huffington Post. The first three installments were “published” on this site. I had asked Tracy’s fans (members of the online forum she launched a decade ago) if they would help me launch a Dear-Abby-type column about family issues, and they came up with great questions. Mothers in the thick of hands-on parenting–in their 30s, 40s, and 50s–they want answers about sibling rivalry, what to do when a parent is physically or mentally ill, how to resolve couple differences about parenting practices, how to tame a mother-in-law.
Now that Dear Family Whisperer is visible to a larger audience, I wonder who will metaphorically raise their hands and what will they ask about? Continue reading article →
Dear Family Whisperer now appears weekly on Huffington Post Parent
Dear Family Whisperer,
It would be helpful to also know the ages of your children, how visible your partner’s problems are, how limited s/he is and how s/he deals with those limitations, whether your children seem worried, if and how the illness affects the parent/child relationships in your household (not just the ill parent, the well one, too). Lacking those details, though, as a general rule of thumb, know that your children are aware of your emotions and everything that’s going on in the household. Even babies are “infected” by their caregivers’ depression.
My advice: be authentic; tell it like it is, because they know anyway. Continue reading article →
Note to the reader: Though lengthy, I thought this post would serve as a fitting introduction. If this is your first visit, please be assured that future posts won’t be this long!
When my son Jeremy was in college more than two decades ago, revealing bits of his life to a new female friend, he mentioned that his mother was a journalist. Impressed or just curious, the girl asked, “What does she write about?”
As I began to think about this website and my initial foray into social media in 2009, I had a very liberating thought:
I don’t have to show up every day or blog on a schedule! I can write when the spirit moves me to pose a question or make a point.
So, if after reading the various static pages on this site, you’re interested in what I or a guest might discuss in the future, sign up here, and I’ll let you know.
And if you want, send a me personal message, I’d love to hear from you.