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I have a newborn and a 3-year-old (both girls). What are your top tips for encouraging them to get on as they grow up without too much conflict/jealousy etc? I am keen to start off as well as possible!Dear Family Whisperer,
— Concerned Mother of Two
Dear Concerned Mother of Two,
Of all the things that worry us, sibling issues are at the top of most parents’ list. You’re in luck, though: With such young children, all you have to do now is lay the groundwork with your girls — and be mindful of what your words and actions tell them.
Frame the baby’s arrival as a family issue: “We” are growing. “We” now have more people to help out and to have fun with. But don’t be too much of a Pollyana. Everyone’s been telling your daughter how much “fun” her little sister will be, but all she sees now is an uncoordinated blob who cries a lot and takes up your time.