One of the exercises featured in the course—which I often utilize—was a simple yet profound way of getting “unstuck” by telling yourself the truth.
The Tell Yourself the Truth mantra (as I call it) is the single most important secret to working through any problem that pulls you up short—Whoa! moments, as they’re called in the book. A Whoa! moment can take you by surprise (a telephone call with bad news, a comment or action by a family member), or one can build up over time (something lingering on the edge of your consciousness that you finally have to deal with). Here is how the technique is described in Family Whispering (page 88):
This is something you can try at home! It’s best to use before a serious Whoa! moment, when you don’t feel backed up against the wall and before anyone loses control. And if you practice telling yourself the truth on a regular basis and in everyday interactions, it will strengthen your better self—that part of you that’s wise and compassionate and cares more about improving the relationships than winning the argument!